To Think About

If you want to turn your life around, try thankfulness. It will change your life mightily. ~Gerald Good

Friday, April 1, 2011

Why do People Assume so Much?,

This morning I caught up with a colleague who, while not exactly a friend, I enjoy spending time with and with whom I share many views. She was married three weeks ago after many years of self-imposed singledom. She's beautiful both inside and out, she's focussed on her successful career, she has friends a plenty. And she always said she would stay single.
And then she found a love strong enough to change her mind and she is happy as happy can be.

But on her wedding day friends told her that they were so glad she was finally married - that they had been worried about her, that they didn't really feel she was going to be happy till she found a husband. She told me she paused and wondered how argumentative about such a topic it was prudent to be on one's wedding day, and chose to say nothing.

My question is this: why do so many people think that you are somehow happier when you're married than when you're single? I've been married and it wasn't the wedded bliss I had imagined and I am so much happier now that I am single again. I'm not saying that being married to the right person isn't wonderful but life can be equally as wonderful when you make your own decisions and when your space is your own.

So many girls (I don't think fellows do this so much but I could be wrong) waste so much time looking for Mr Right that they are prepared to put up with Mr Wrong rather than be alone and miss out on the very real pleasures that single life can bring. I say embrace the life you have now and let whatever will be be!

1 comment:

  1. I was the girl who always had a boyfriend and never knew herself. Being single gave me a chance to date myself, get to know my heart and mind...I'm so glad I didn't marry (only because everyone else was) they would have been mistakes, and I felt it. 'Know thyself' is step one to being in a healthy relationship.
    Nice post.